The Relearning Blog

That’s what your mind tells you and yet here you are, feeling the way that you do. What do you want to do about this?  Maybe you have heard or even tried saying some of the following: “Other people have it worse” “There is no reason for me to feel this way” “This doesn’t matter” […]

Working out mentally is not about overthinking, ruminating or playing a scene over and over again in your mind. It’s about training your awareness muscle to shift away from the constant mental noise and come back to the present moment.  As humans, we get caught in our heads riding the rollercoaster of worry, predicting and […]

For any client that I meet I often describe therapy as a safe space. Where there is opportunity to explore learned patterns, coping mechanisms, uncover fears and rediscover parts of our humanness that were forgotten or didn’t even know existed. This is the unraveling beauty of therapy. What I also prepare my clients for is […]

I know very few people that do nothing and feel great about it. We live in a world obsessed and proud of the hustle pushed and manufactured by productivity apps, self-optimization, routines, structure and breathing, sleeping, goal trackers. Can we learn how to let all this go, if even for a moment? Can you let […]

It’s been almost two decades since I’ve worked with humans in some therapeutic setting. Life topics and challenges and how they shape us as human beings always takes center stage. And I think it’s fair to say, and all my single clients would concur, it has never been this difficult to date in this time […]

Perfectionism is the Psychological phenomenon that is categorized by “all or nothing” ways of thinking, control and has been linked to obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). Working with anxious, procrastinating perfectionists for almost a decade, I have noticed a number of behaviours and beliefs that are keeping perfectionists stuck:  Fear of failure: This profound fear stops you […]

Folks who avoid conflict are often touted as easy going and identifying with “going with the flow.” They are also the folks who likely find themselves knee deep in conflict, resentment and inner turmoil because they haven’t learned the skills to engage in healthy conflict. Is this you? Keep reading…  If you go out of […]

Many people come to therapy looking for tools and techniques to manage their stress or to manage symptoms of burnout (sustained stress). I get it, stress is not the most comfortable thing to experience and most of us need help developing strategies to manage challenges and stress-points.  Here are a few questions that can help […]

What did you dream about as a child? What did you want to become? Where did your imagination take you? Do you remember how you felt? When nothing seemed out of reach. Do you still dream as an adult and how much do you believe in these dreams to become a reality? As adults, we […]

“Why aren’t we talking about this?” This question is seared into my mind. One of my closest friends called me this past January and this was the first thing she asked as she was experiencing her father’s transition. Sitting in the hospital parking lot in her car, that’s when she called me. And then, we […]

Have you ever found yourself thinking about what should have happened, what someone should have said or done?  Focusing on an alternative world where what happened didn’t happen is exhausting. While you expend energy thinking about what should be, you create more pain. There is more suffering in the denial of reality than there is […]