The Relearning Blog

“Why aren’t we talking about this?” This question is seared into my mind. One of my closest friends called me this past January and this was the first thing she asked as she was experiencing her father’s transition. Sitting in the hospital parking lot in her car, that’s when she called me. And then, we […]

Have you ever found yourself thinking about what should have happened, what someone should have said or done?  Focusing on an alternative world where what happened didn’t happen is exhausting. While you expend energy thinking about what should be, you create more pain. There is more suffering in the denial of reality than there is […]

Have you ever had the experience where your mind starts wandering, and it may start off small but before you know it, you’re thinking of all the big life questions and getting caught up in it? There is a word for this — existential dread — and it’s likely that we will all experience this […]

If you are a caregiver, you may experience this role as incredibly rewarding at times and it can feel incredibly overwhelming. Caring for a loved one who is dependent on you in some way or form requires an incredible amount of energy, patience and compassion. It’s easy to put your own needs as secondary or […]

There’s nothing easy about a breakup. I have been navigating a separation with my ex-partner for the past four years. We still live under the same roof. Our home we were building dreams in. The way we would renovate it, children/no children? hosting family & friends, celebrating life milestones, growing old. You know all the […]

As a Psychotherapist who has almost 10 years under her belt, I always get this question: “How can I get rid of my anxiety?” My response is always – “you can’t.” You can avoid things that make you anxious but that won’t get rid of your anxiety. Avoidance of the person/place/thing that sets your anxiety […]

Do you have a task that no matter how hard you work at it or know it needs to get done, you find yourself spiraling, avoiding the task until the very last minute? If this sounds like you, you’re not alone. Maybe you’re used to hearing phrases like: “Everyone has to do XYZ, it’s not […]

Yes, it is still a thing. Today I was driving downtown Toronto and I found myself smiling. I know maybe I’ve completely lost the last of what was intact of my mind, but I really don’t think that’s the case ( still in question 🙂 It was around 9:15 am, so yes there was traffic, […]

Ever sit on the couch with your mind telling you the long list of things you *should* or *need* to do and you can’t seem to get up and actually do any of them? You sit there for minutes, hours or even days naming everything you need to do and judging that it’s not being […]

Whether we are talking about our colleagues in the office, our social circle or family, we all seek a sense of belonging. According to many self-help gurus, clinicians and even researchers, belonging is being able to accept all parts of you – your darkness and your light and go one step further, and share those […]